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that they will meet people and make friends, forming relationships
takes time, effort, opportunity, and confidence, particularly when one
moves to a foreign land (Shaules, 2007). The first six months to a
year, especially, are extremely difficult for most international students
and can be the turning point as to whether or not they ever acclimate
to the culture (Bowman, 2011; Smith, 2011). Some international
students, for instance, spend four years in the United States without
making a single American friend (Yan & David, 2011). While many
meet and form friendships with other students from their own country
or other countries, although helpful in forming relationships and
overcoming loneliness, this does not usually facilitate assimilation
into the American culture or result in contentment in their program
experiences (Sawir, Marginson, Deumert, Nyland, & Ramia, 2008). It
is essential to combine students’ academic and sociological
experiences, as “the impact of college is most potent when in-class
and out-of-class experiences are complimentary” (Kuh, as cited in
Sandeen & Barr, 2006, p. 145). Aside from going to class and
working hard academically, international students also face the task of
working on their social lives and forming out-of-class relationships
with Americans.
However, the complexity of sociological, academic, cultural,
and linguistic differences makes their integration into American
culture a difficult one (Telbis, Helgeson, & Kingsbury, 2014).
Students from Asian countries, for example, are accustomed to a very
different academic system where students listen, do not ask questions,
and make limited eye contact with their instructors; hence, they must
learn how to communicate and interact with their instructors in U.S.
classes in ways they never have before (Telbis, Helgeson, &
Kingsbury, 2014). Some female students come from cultures where
they have been very sheltered in general and have spent little time
both by themselves and with males; they have to acclimate quickly to
American social conventions and learn how to act in social situations
in order to make friends (Problems for International Students, 2012).
Furthermore, many students truly believe that the U.S. is like the
television shows they have been watching for years and must accept
and adapt to what seems like an entirely different place compared to
what they were expecting once they arrive (International Students
Culture, 2010; Yan & David, 2011). Finally, the linguistic element is